Loving Yourself to Achieve Your Goals

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Have you ever tried to get a child to do something they don't want to do? When you speak a bit harsher or lose your patience with them, does that motivate them to do what you want? I've raised four kids and I can tell you from my experience it never works; they never get to the point where they want to do what I ask.

They might do it out of fear of retribution or consequences, but never out of a desire to do what I want them to do. The same goes for ourselves.

When we want to make changes in our lives, we think if we talk negatively to ourselves or beat ourselves up enough, then we will be successful. I'm here to tell you, for the most part, that just doesn't work. I spent a lot of years wishing I was different, thinking I should be a better mom, I should be thinner, I should be more fit, I should be a better member of my church, I should be doing all the things moms are supposed to do.

Then one day my world got blown up. My life coach told me that to be successful in achieving the changes I wanted to make, I had to accept where I was and be okay with that.

To become a curious observer of myself without judgement or thinking I should be different. Once I got ok with where I was, I actually was able to gain traction in making the lasting change I so desperately desired and had worked so hard for, for so many years.

I had to LOVE myself better.

Beating myself up for not being good enough was not working for me.

Once I began to love me for the perfectly imperfect person I was, I made changes from a place of confidence. Striving for change out of lack or self-degradation will only keep you in the cycle of failure to change.

I LOVE ME! I’m AWESOME and SO ARE YOU!! Let’s work together in believing you are worthy of the love you deserve, especially when that love comes from YOU.