I should lose weight
I should pray more
I should happy
I should be a better mom/wife/sister/friend
I should read my scriptures
I should never eat sugar
I should stop spending money
I should clean my house better
I should be a more consistent blog poster
When we use the word "should," it often implies that there's a rule book we must follow to lead a happy life. These "shoulds" may initially sound like motivating thoughts, but in reality, they can have a detrimental effect. Instead of inspiring positive change, they often lead to feelings of inadequacy and falling short. So, rather than burdening ourselves with "shoulds," we end up burdened with guilt and shame, which are rarely motivating.
Let's try this instead....
I want to lose weight
I want to pray more
I want to be happy
I want to be a better mom/wife/sister/friend
I want to read my scriptures
I want to eat better
I want to save money
I want to clean my house better
I want to be a more consistent blog poster
Do you see the difference? Just that small shift in perspective can change the way we feel, driving our actions in a positive direction. When we focus on what we truly want, rather than what we think we 'should' do, it becomes a path to self-improvement filled with motivation, determination, and a genuine desire for positive change."
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