top of page

Who do you want to be?

I had someone in my life that had some big issues with me.

To be fair, some of those issues were completely warranted, I didn't always show up as my best self with this person..

Well they decided to "go no contact" with me for some time. At the time I felt very wronged and hurt.

I tried to change my thoughts about it.

I tried to not be hurt by it.

But no matter how much I tried I was still felling terrible.

I was in a lot of emotional.

This person had a birthday and I wanted to not even acknowledge it.

I wanted them to feel hurt as I was feeling hurt.

Then I realized that not showing up in my life as who I really wanted to be, only hurt one person, and it wasn't them......


So I put together the most awesome gift ever, I stuck it in the mail and I felt so good about it.

I had someone else in my life ask me why....

"Why would you do that for them, they hate you and would never do that for you?"

My answer was, "This is just who I want to be, I want to be the one who loves no matter what, I want to be kind and understanding whether they speak to me or not, I don't buy a gift in order to manipulate them into talking to me, I'm doing it for me!"

In your relationships with others, are you showing up as the person you want to be? Are you being your best self? Next time you find yourself wanting to be angry with or mean to someone because they have a problem with you, ask yourself, "who do I want to be in this situation?"

0 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All


bottom of page